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The Need for Privacy. In Our Heads.
It's summer once again and I have started my practice of seclusion into my own thoughts and being alone. I am by no means isolated from people, physically, but mentally and emotionally, yes. There are several reasons for why I am doing this, one being that after 5 months in college I am rather jaded from being around so many people. I get tired from being around others and the few times that I get tangled in their lives drains me of a lot of physical and emotional energy. 
However, once I thought about it some more, I realized that this need for seclusion is also a need for privacy. 

I have used Facebook for around 3 years and I had a Twitter account for 1 year before I recently deleted it. (You can probably guess where this is going.) I, like many others, have gotten caught up in the countless status updates, tweets, twats, twits and whatnot. These frenzies of Facebooking and twittering would last around several months before I myself would get burned out and I would sit back and watch the action. It was probably around a year and a half ago that I came to the realization that indeed nothing is private anymore. People will tell you what they think, what they're doing, what they're about do, what they just did and so forth. It surprised me how much I could tell about people from their posts and pictures (both on Twitter and FB.) Depending on how Twitter of FB happy my contacts were, I knew everything about their lives. 

I thought , "Wow, how fascinating. How... absolutely boring." 

It was then that I decided that if I was going to post a status update on FB, it was going to be something totally random that would throw-off whoever was reading my status. On Twitter, I devoted myself to trying to write micro stories under 140 characters that had nothing to do about me. The more I noticed the behavior of those around me, the more I became aware of my own. I notice that the times I was posting statuses about what I was feeling or doing it was when I wanted the attention. Later I would feel ashamed of posting things like that. I then decided that it was more entertaining to be secretive and mysterious than to divulge every single thing I thought or did.  

I have paid attention to what those around me do in those mediums and I notice that there is a great need for attention. I noticed it in the posts that I sometimes wrote, and in the ones others did. I learned to ween myself off of posting stupid things just so I could get a comment. I thought "Am I really that needy? No, I'm not." How does this tie in to my first point of my need for seclusion and privacy? Simple, I'm trying to be more private by staying off FB and hardly posting anything unnecessary. I don't even have any basic or contact info on there. If I have any rambling thoughts, I prefer to keep them to myself. It feels like so cheap a place to share thoughts or emotions, especially when few people take them seriously. 

To me, this practice feels very liberating and refreshing. I have come to greatly value my emotional and intellectual privacy, especially in a world and medium where a lot of people feel the need to show-off everything they do, say, or think. I have a little selfish need to be mysterious and not wanting anyone to pin me down. People knowing who I am but now "who" I am. 

Does everything need to be revealed? I don't think so. There are issues that occur in our lives that frankly, are no one else's business but our own. But it feels that some people have forgotten that we have a right to keeping our thoughts to ourselves and that the only thing keeping them from becoming public information is our own hand. 

We can choose to share our thoughts or not, but can we derive a little pleasure from keeping them in our own minds. Or does that make us selfish? 
We can choose to share our thoughts or not, but can we derive a little pleasure from keeping them in our own minds. Or does that make us selfish?

Not at all--I would say that it makes you wise.
Throwing everything you've got out into the public space means there's nothing left for you.  Your interests become diluted and adulterated.
You need to think without other people throwing their opinions at you or being jealous of your time and ruining your concentration.
Once you're finished mulling something over you can put it out for the world to see or not.
Sometimes we manufacture a little jewel of a thought.  We shape it and polish it and cherish it and then we may want to see what someone else thinks--that's okay.
But sometimes you need to put it in your favorite little velvet box and keep it for yourself to admire and think about and make even more beautiful.
Ooh, I like this topic!

I've found that a 1/23 ratio of social/private hours is just about right for my pink cream complexion. Anymore than that and I sink into the turbid wrinkles of red, black, and yellow!

In fact, many days 1/23 is much too high.
I will quote:

"There are so many factors that make people of the same feeling and disposition seem temporarily different from one another - such as their experiences and situations in life, and also the kind of work they do. These are seemingly small matters, yet they affect the manifestations of outward life among people in general and artists, do they not…Circumstances overturn all the rules and laws such as it is not good to be too much alone.

"On this question of being alone…the ordinary person seeks beauty in concrete life, but this is what an artist must not do. He must stand alone and all alone. He must create solely from the urge to create, just like all nature: but must create in a sphere that is not concrete for us – that of thought. And if he obeys only this urge to create and as far as possible, keeps himself free in order to do this – then he will have done enough. For he will consequently have great significance for mankind…To be alone is (for the great) the opportunity to penetrate and know the self, the true man, the god-man and, in the highest case, one becomes god. In this way one becomes greater, one becomes conscious, one becomes finally, God". (pp19)    [(Mondrian in response to Arnold on his being “too much alone.” (Holtzman, H.., Martin S.J.            :   The collected writings of Piet Mondrian, London, Thames and Hudson)]

 "...experience is no longer important but pure reason. Pure reason better justifies actions than wisdom.” (Piet Mondrian)

"It is the HIGHER-SELF, the real EGO who alone is divine and God."(H.P. Blavatsky, The Secrete Doctrine, 1.445). Blavasks quotes Hegel’s Philosophy of History: "the essence of man is spirit…only by stripping himself of his finiteness and surrendering himself to pure self-consciousness does he attain truth. Christ-man, as man in whom the unity of god-man ( identity of the individual with the universal consciousness…) appeared, has in his death and history generally, himself presented the eternal history of spirit – a history which every man has to exist to accomplish in himself, in order to exist as spirit."
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